The 3 mistakes too many men make in relationships
On today’s episode of God, Money & Purpose, Vivian takes the gloves off and hits Raul with the three mistakes that men commonly make in relationships. Instead of getting defensive, men should take this opportunity to get feedback from life, and grow from it.
Mistake 1: Confusing intimacy with quality time. Raul admits that when he and Vivian are snuggled together on the couch watching a horror movie, he views it as an intimate experience. But what he doesn’t realize is that Vivian isn’t taking any of that as intimate, and instead views it as just another activity. Often, Raul will be physically present with Vivian in a romantic setting, but be checking his phone every two minutes. To be truly intimate, go beyond physical intimacy and pay full attention to each other.
Mistake 2: Not understanding your partner’s love language. The Five Love Languages is a concept from Gary Chapman in his book of the same title. Each of us speak to each other in one of those languages, and not interpreting what your partner is saying to you is a mistake couples make in a relationship. Communicate with each other what your specific love language is so your partner can be attuned to it.
Mistake 3: Never changing. Raul and Vivian have been together for over 20 years. What worked for them 20 years ago isn’t necessarily going to work now. You have to be willing to go beyond your comfort zone to not be the partner you are now, but to continually evolve and become the partner you need to be.
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