How to resolve conflict and accept criticism in your relationship

On this episode of the God, Money & Sex Podcast, Raul and Vivian discuss an issue that every relationship faces at some point: how to resolve conflict and accept criticism. You can’t have a successful relationship without having different views and learning how to both express and accept those different views.

A common problem when a conflict arises is that one partner fights and the other flees, and instead of resolving the issue, he or she builds resentment and acts out in some passive-aggressive manner later. In some cases, both partners may flee the situation and both build up that resentment.

Raul and Vivian discuss three ways to resolve conflicts. The first is to not take what your partner says personally. In order to receive criticism, you must be able to separate that the feedback your partner is giving you is criticizing the action you are taking, not you as a person. How you choose to phrase your point makes a big difference. Your tone of voice, even the name you choose to call the other person (e.g., “Abby or Abigal) can make a huge difference.

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