On this episode, Vivian and Raul talk about rituals and routines. Life won’t give you want you want, it will give you what you’re committed to. In a relationship, you have to show up for each other consistently. Not every night is going to be a spectacular date night, often things are quite ordinary. But love is something you do, and in different ways.Having control of your money is a form of emotional fitness.

Being able to make intelligent decisions with money, rather than be impulsive, or ignore purchases that “don’t count” means you have that emotional fitness.

When you have two people who mix their finances, it can quickly create tension if you aren’t on the same page about money, or don’t know where the money is going at the end of the month.