REACTING TO ANDREW TATE: Is Toxic Masculinity Real?

This is a reaction video to the interview Andrew Tate did with YouTube podcasters Fresh & Fit. Andrew Tate is blowing up on the internet, according to my son, and I want to see this interview for myself.

The following are the, ahem, “bold” claims made by Tate, and my reaction to them:

“Toxic masculinity is a term invented by women nobody wants to fuck to describe men they do want to fuck.”

Toxicity does exist, and you can have toxic masulinity (the dark warrior) and toxic femininity (the ice queen). But what Andrew Tate is describing is reductive. 

“If you put men & women in a survival situation, they revert back to their gender roles: Men will hunt, women will farm.”

I was born in Ecuador, which is a developing country. Women have to put up with toxic masculinity because they need to survive. That doesn’t mean the toxic masculinity is a first world problem, it means women speaking up for themselves is a first world advantage.

“Is it being a toxic man to shoot an intruder in your home?”

How do we go from having a toxic masculinity label when there is legitimate danger in your home? That’s just being a MAN, not a toxic man. If something is happening and you need to protect people around you, that’s good. Toxic masculinity is using your energy to put women down rather than lift them up. 

“If you want to control a country, you kill or control all the men.”

If you want to control society, you emasculate men. You cannot be a man if you want to talk about certain things or do certain things. But there is a difference between being toxic and controlling and being a man who owns himself. Women don’t know the difference between a man who is toxic and a man who is confident. That confuses many young men.

“We have to stay in our home and cover our faces because men are weak!”

There is a warrior inside of every single man. But there’s also the dark warrior. The dark warrior wants to fuck and fight, but he also destroys everything. Tate is acting like the dark warrior when he talks about how men are being controlled. At the end of the day, you can’t be a warrior forever; you have to grow up and become a king. 

“Men are turned into worker drones who are stuck in sexless marriages.”

Tate is describing the sedated warrior phase. We don’t talk enough about male depression and men struggling in sexless marriages and dead-end jobs. As a man, you need to level up and lead. You have to make the choice yourself, no one can keep you down. 

While Tate’s comments are incendiary, he speaks to a true feeling of loneliness and anxiety that many men feel today. If you are going through a tough time, my advice is to raise your hand and ask for help. See a therapist, or meditate, or take personal development classes. There is no need to go further down a dark path if you don’t see any other way. There is always another way. It is possible to be a man without being a toxic man.

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