How to set effective goals

How to set effective goals

When you become an entrepreneur, you end up working much harder than when you worked for someone else. Now all the responsibilities are on you, and you didn’t realize how hard it was going to be to succeed. 

The fastest way to fail is to set unrealistic goals. If you set unrealistic goals, you often give up halfway through. Most men don’t hit their goals because they overestimate what they can do…And we underestimate how hard it’s going to be.

It doesn’t cost anything to dream big. There is always a price to pay for success. The reason most men fail is because they aren’t willing to pay the price. They negotiate with life. Do you think shit is going to happen at the perfect moment? Or do you just make shit happen even if you make mistakes? You pay the price for success or you pay the price for regret.

3 things you need to set effective goals

1- Clear Data.

Most men don’t hit their goals because they are all over the place. They don’t have a clear outcome, they don’t know what to do, and they don’t have the right data. A goal that can’t be measured will never get accomplished. That’s the reason why we measure everything in the app.

You have to measure your outcomes. If you don’t know your score, you can’t beat it. Log your points in the app, and know the specific data you want to track. The more specific the better. Life doesn’t work with guesses. Whatever you focus on the most, you’re going to attract more of it. Clarity is power; without it, you’re always going to be reacting to life. You have to have a clear outcome and clear data that shows how you are accomplishing it.

Write down: What is the outcome you need to get clear on for the next 100 days?  

2- Leverage 

If you don’t have leverage, you’re always going to make excuses.

Emotion creates motion. When you have a drive, a fire in your soul, to push you to take action. You need to have a reason why that is strong enough to get you to take action when you don’t feel like it. 

Most of us wait until we feel like doing the work. Fuck feelings! Have a reason that’s big enough that when you don’t feel like showing up, you show up anyway. Men take action to avoid pain or pursue pleasure. Are you driven by avoiding pain or pursuing pleasure? Use your pain as fuel. 

What is the price you will pay if you don’t do it, and what is the prize you will get if you do? Look at your outcomes. Put down a price and a prize.

Know what is at risk. Everything has consequences. What happens if you give up? If you don’t give it everything you have, what will you lose? Who you will become if you half-ass it? Are you going to be intentional about who you design yourself to be or will you be reacting to life? 

Who will pay the price if you don’t do it?

Procrastination happens when you think you have time. If you only had 100 days to show up, what would you accomplish? Most of the time, only the most urgent tasks get done. When you live 100 days at a time, it creates a sense of urgency. 

In the next 30 days, how will you measure your progress? If you can’t accomplish that outcome in 30 days, maybe it shouldn’t be your outcome. Be realistic with your capacity and review your outcomes every 30 days.

Have musts, not to-do lists. Start with 1-year goals, then break them down into 100 day outcomes, then 30-day measurable KPIs, and weekly musts.

Are you buying into your excuses or are you focusing on results? Nothing is going to happen unless you commit to working hard. When you accept that paying the price for success is going to be harder than you think, you stop arguing with reality.

You are going to be somebody’s reason or somebody’s excuse. You choose how you want to be remembered. You either make shit happen or you’re someone’s excuse. If you don’t lead, you’re going to be looking for someone to save you.

 

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REACTING TO ANDREW TATE: Is Toxic Masculinity Real?

REACTING TO ANDREW TATE: Is Toxic Masculinity Real?

This is a reaction video to the interview Andrew Tate did with YouTube podcasters Fresh & Fit. Andrew Tate is blowing up on the internet, according to my son, and I want to see this interview for myself.

The following are the, ahem, “bold” claims made by Tate, and my reaction to them:

“Toxic masculinity is a term invented by women nobody wants to fuck to describe men they do want to fuck.”

Toxicity does exist, and you can have toxic masulinity (the dark warrior) and toxic femininity (the ice queen). But what Andrew Tate is describing is reductive. 

“If you put men & women in a survival situation, they revert back to their gender roles: Men will hunt, women will farm.”

I was born in Ecuador, which is a developing country. Women have to put up with toxic masculinity because they need to survive. That doesn’t mean the toxic masculinity is a first world problem, it means women speaking up for themselves is a first world advantage.

“Is it being a toxic man to shoot an intruder in your home?”

How do we go from having a toxic masculinity label when there is legitimate danger in your home? That’s just being a MAN, not a toxic man. If something is happening and you need to protect people around you, that’s good. Toxic masculinity is using your energy to put women down rather than lift them up. 

“If you want to control a country, you kill or control all the men.”

If you want to control society, you emasculate men. You cannot be a man if you want to talk about certain things or do certain things. But there is a difference between being toxic and controlling and being a man who owns himself. Women don’t know the difference between a man who is toxic and a man who is confident. That confuses many young men.

“We have to stay in our home and cover our faces because men are weak!”

There is a warrior inside of every single man. But there’s also the dark warrior. The dark warrior wants to fuck and fight, but he also destroys everything. Tate is acting like the dark warrior when he talks about how men are being controlled. At the end of the day, you can’t be a warrior forever; you have to grow up and become a king. 

“Men are turned into worker drones who are stuck in sexless marriages.”

Tate is describing the sedated warrior phase. We don’t talk enough about male depression and men struggling in sexless marriages and dead-end jobs. As a man, you need to level up and lead. You have to make the choice yourself, no one can keep you down. 

While Tate’s comments are incendiary, he speaks to a true feeling of loneliness and anxiety that many men feel today. If you are going through a tough time, my advice is to raise your hand and ask for help. See a therapist, or meditate, or take personal development classes. There is no need to go further down a dark path if you don’t see any other way. There is always another way. It is possible to be a man without being a toxic man.

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4 things you need as a Businessman to optimize during the Recession

4 things you need as a Businessman to optimize during the Recession

There is good news and bad news in moments of crisis. The bad news is that NO ONE is coming to save you! The good news is that high achievers wouldn’t want it any other way.

When people are having good times, they think that they will always be winners. But a tough time will punch them in the face. That’s why some men turn from winners into whiners.

In moments of crisis, the majority of people will turn into victims. It is crucial for a man to give himself permission to win. He can save himself when he accepts that no one is coming to save him.

4 steps to make sure you WIN in times of crisis.
1- Stop complaining.

Most men are complaining and waiting to be saved. There is no upside in spending energy complaining about your situation. Nobody gives a shit about your complaining!

Turn your complaint into a reason to take action. Instead of complaining and wondering why is this happening to you, ask what God is trying to tell you. If you don’t like your situation, what can you do to make it better? Life is always whispering. If you don’t listen to the whispers, you will hear the screams.

2- Take extreme ownership
You are the problem and the solution. Extreme ownership means everything is your responsibility. When you have nobody to blame, you will take a look in the mirror to see what you need to change. When bad things happen, they often happen because you were complacent. You didn’t prepare for the situation. You didn’t keep improving yourself. You let failure creep up on you.

3- Sharpen your skills
In good times, people will settle for good enough; in hard times it pays to be a specialist. You have to spend time with the A-players in your organization because people will only do what they see you do. Average producers are looking to be saved, big producers are looking to seize the opportunity. Average producers will not make it.

4- Double down on yourself
Taking care of yourself is not selfish, it’s smart. The main thing that saved my business in the 2008 recession was that I double down on myself. If the king doesn’t rise, everyone pays the price. Invest time, energy and money to reset, recharge, and recommit. Recommit to your WHY.
If you don’t believe you are worth it, you won’t’ win. Your belief system must be a priority. You must believe without a shadow of a doubt that you have everything you need to win. Nothing that gets in your way will stop you.

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Stop complaining because nobody gives a fuck about how hard you have it.
Take extreme ownership of the situation because no one else can do it for you.
Sharpen your skills to add more value to the marketplace
Double down on yourself and become undeniable.

Who you become in the next 2 years is going to set you up for decades. But you have to believe that this is what you were made for. The battle has to be exciting for you. In this moment of crisis, you will shine the light in the darkness.

 

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The (real) reason why you’re stuck

The (real) reason why you’re stuck

You’ve heard that insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

I believe the definition of insanity is actually KNOWING WHAT TO DO and NOT DOING IT!

I talk to men every day who are stuck. They say, “I know what I have to do. I know I have to level up. But for some reason I just don’t.”

The reason you’re STUCK is because you’re COMFORTABLE.

There isn’t enough PAIN in order to push you to get things done.

How do you overcome being comfortable? You ask yourself who will suffer if you don’t do what you NEED to do? Who will pay the price if you aren’t willing to get uncomfortable?

If you’re only thinking about yourself, you’re always going to be comfortable. Or, to be more specific, if you’re only thinking about YOURSELF in this moment, you’re going to be comfortable.

The moment you take your eyes off yourself, and realize that your lack of discipline, consistency, and action is going to be what makes someone else suffer. 

Every day, you have 2 choices:

You can stay in the same place…

Or you can do what you KNOW you NEED to do and EXPAND

You can say you don’t have time, or energy, or training to level up.

But that’s just a lie you tell yourself.

Because the TRUTH is that you’re AFRAID.

AFRAID to be uncomfortable. 

You tell yourself that it’s not that bad. Things are comfortable, there’s no need to change them.

Then life does what it always does… life PUNCHES YOU IN THE FACE and you take action immediately.

Why wait? Why wait until life punches you in the face and instead why don’t you strike first?

Don’t wait until pain comes into your life. Don’t wait until your wife asks for a divorce, or the bills get so high you can’t pay them, or the doctor tells you something you never want to hear, or you feel empty without purpose… take action NOW!

Dig the well before you’re thirsty.

Put in the work before you need to. That’s the secret to sharpening your EDGE is to not wait until you lose the edge.

Mastery requires discipline. To put in the work when you don’t need to. To sharpen your edge when you don’t you need to.

Do something today that takes you out of your comfort zone.

Push yourself in your business, your marriage, your fitness, or your connection with God.

Whatever you do today, you ALREADY KNOW what you have to do…do MORE of it today than you did yesterday.

Sharpen your edge. Don’t stay comfortable. Get 1% better every day.

Don’t worry about what everyone else is doing. You can’t control anyone else.

Your only competition is YOU vs. YOU. 

Who you were YESTERDAY vs. who you will be TOMORROW.

Life is always going to give you what you need TODAY to be better tomorrow.

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How to Stop Negative Self-Talk

How to Stop Negative Self-Talk

The mind has a habit of always seeing the negative.

It sees the ways you’ve failed, all the things you don’t have, all the reasons why you aren’t enough.

I get asked, “How do I break the habit of negative thinking?”

Here is what I say:

Have you ever been to a funeral?

We all have.

When a person gives a eulogy, they talk about all the great things the person has done in their lives.

People remember the good, not the bad, once you’re dead.

Every day, I believe you should have a funeral for the man you once were. Every day, you can do the daily ritual to R.I.P the man you were yesterday, so you can focus on the positive and learn the lessons to become the person you need to become today.

There is zero upside in focusing on the failures.

Every day, you have to be reborn.
Every day, you have to focus on who you are becoming and let go of the man you were yesterday.

Pay attention to your negative self-talk.
Are you focusing on the things you wish you had, wish you did, and wish you didn’t do? Or are you focusing on who you are becoming in this process?

Who do you have to become to live with purpose, lead with power, and create an impact?

The version of you right now may not have the capacity…but who you are becoming has all the capacity you need to fulfill your mission on this earth.

Knowing that we’re our worst critics, we have to learn to let go, stop the negative self-talk, and begin to speak life into our vision.

Let go of what doesn’t serve you and focus on who you’re becoming.

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How to multiply your results so 1+1 can equal 1,000

How to multiply your results so 1+1 can equal 1,000

The most valuable asset we have is time. Everything we do needs to maximize and compound time. The problem is that we spend most of our time adding. If we add 1 + 1, it will always equal 2.

But, when you multiply your output, 1 + 1 can equal 1,000.

The average man is looking to ADD. Focus on MULTIPLYING. If you want to grow exponentially, There are 4 multipliers leaders that need to focus on:

1- Leadership Development 

2- Culture

3- Vision

4- Recruiting

Every time you think of only yourself and you want to add, you’re limited.

When you multiply, there is no limit on your potential. 

Click on the link below to learn exactly what you must do to add exponential growth to your organization when everyone else is trying to keep from losing what they have.

 

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