5 ways to know if you’ve been called to lead

5 ways to know if you’ve been called to lead

Not all leaders are the same.

Some people lead out of convenience. They are tuned in WIFM (What’s in it for me?) When something goes wrong, he never blames himself, he always looks for someone else to blame.

The second type of leader leads because it’s their identity. They usually want to please the crowd and they want the significance and prestige that comes from being a leader. They want to prove something, but they aren’t true leaders.

The third type of leader has been called to lead. Those who have been called to lead don’t always want to lead. The moment you feel like you’ve been called to lead, you start making excuses why you can’t lead. But when you’ve been called to lead, you can change the game. Men who listen to the deep calling of being a leader create a bigger impact.

5 ways to know if you’ve been called to lead

1- You have a burning desire for growth
For you, it’s not “nice” to grow, you need to grow; you believe that if you’re not growing, you’re dying. Every day, you have to expand. There’s always a next level, and you’re going to find it. You are not afraid to lose the battle because you know you’ll eventually win the war. You know that you can figure shit out. Every setback is still one step closer to your ultimate vision. You need to grow and expand.

2- You follow your instincts.
Trusting your gut is how you found your EDGE. When you are in alignment with your inner voice, you tap into effortless flow. Effortless flow is when you realize that everything you do has a purpose because you trust the voice within you. Your certainty doesn’t come from the outside, it comes from within you. A higher purpose is guiding you.

3- Legacy is more important than instant gratification.
You are playing the long game. You don’t care about what people say about you today, you care about what generations will say about you when you’re gone. You’re okay with being misunderstood temporarily because time will tell who is right and wrong. You aren’t trying to please everyone around you, you’re looking at what the next generation will say about you. If you’ve been called to lead, you know there is a bigger purpose for you.

4- You are willing to pay the price even if you don’t know how.
You know that there is a risk for everything, but the biggest risk is doing nothing. So many men are staying on the sidelines waiting for someone to lead, but you know you’ve been called to lead when you take the risk. You may not have a clear path or know what you have to do, but you have a clear why. You know why you’ve been called to lead. You are figuring out why, but the why is crystal clear. You live by the principle that life is going to give you what you need to level up. When you pay attention to what life is giving you, that’s when you’re leading with power.

5- You know that if not you, then who?
It’s not if you are leading, but who you are becoming. Leadership doesn’t require you to be perfect, but it requires commitment. And you know that people are depending on you to rise as a leader. People will suffer if you don’t hear the calling. You are not doing this out of convenience. True leadership is not convenient or easy. You are not doing it out of obligation. You aren’t being forced to lead. You’ve been called to lead. You have a burning desire in your heart that is pulling you to become more. That’s when you know you’ve been called to lead. It’s not about if you become a leader, it’s about who you are becoming as you lead. You hear that voice inside of you that is constantly whispering, “It’s time.” When the voice whispers to you that it’s time to lead, that it’s time to step into the arena, it’s time to stop making excuses, that’s when you know you’ve been called to lead.

You want to break generational curses in your lineage. That is the game plan for you: you are willing to pay the price and do whatever it takes to lead. You’re not negotiating the price because you know who will suffer if you don’t heed your calling.

This is the moment you choose to lead. This is the moment that you listen to the calling. If you are reading this, you know you were destined for more. Maybe somewhere along the way, you lost that desire, or you don’t listen to the whisper, and you’ve become numb by failure. You doubt that you have been called to lead. Men who have been called to lead often doubt themselves. Because when you’re not enough, when you don’t have the capacity when you have fear and uncertainty, that’s when God works through you. God is shaping and molding you, because it’s not you who are leading, it’s God leading you. That’s what a transformational leader is: He says to God, “It’s not my will, it’s your will.” You’re not doing it out of significance, obligation, or convenience; you’re doing it because you’ve been called to lead. God understands that men are waiting on the sidelines waiting for you to show them the path.

The problem is that we get comfortable. We think we know more than God. We start doubting that we’ve been called to lead. That’s the moment we start denying the blessings. We refuse to grow, we stop taking risks and start playing small. We stop listening to the whisper that we’ve been called to lead. And if you don’t listen to the whisper, you will hear the scream of the consequences. Stop looking for the outside world to validate your calling. Stop waiting to be perfect to hear the voice. Stop looking for the perfect moment. Leadership is not convenient.

Life is giving you everything you need to level the fuck up. Every day, you must shut out the voice of negativity and doubt, and enhance the voice that reminds you who you are.

 

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How do you deal with pressure in relationships?

How do you deal with pressure in relationships?

In this episode of the GMS podcast, Vivian and Raul Villacis discuss the importance of handling pressure and not settling for mediocrity in relationships, business, and spirituality. They emphasize the need for open communication and connection to maintain excitement and growth. Raul and Vivian also touch on celebrity scandals such as P.Diddy and Andrew Huberman, and reflect that money doesn’t solve your problems.

Vivian and Raul Villacis also touch on the dangers of idolizing others and the importance of self-care and self-worth. They also share a story about negotiating with their daughter to buy a car as her birthday present, and how Raul reacted when he realized she was doing poorly in school. The situation turned out to be a lesson for both of them on the importance of commitment and follow-through. Watch this episode to learn more about how to accept your own imperfections in an imperfect world.

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Nurturing Growth in Every Relationship

Nurturing Growth in Every Relationship

In the latest episode of the God Money Sex podcast, Vivian and Raul Villacis dive deep into the complexities of relationships, emphasizing the critical role of empathy, understanding, and the spiritual connection of sex. They explore how relationships are foundational to both personal growth and professional success, discussing the importance of nurturing these connections across all areas of life. The conversation also covers the importance of sex in relationships, which they see as a physical connection to each other and a spiritual connection with God.

Raul and Vivian make the case for prioritizing connection and growth in relationships over instant gratification in their reaction to a viral video by YouTube host George Janko when he recounted his story of an opportunity he had that most people dream of, and what he did when it actually happened.

The episode further highlights the challenges that come with balancing professional ambition with personal relationships, underscoring the value of community, accountability, and mentorship, especially for entrepreneurs. Vivian and Raul discuss the upcoming Leadership Summit for men and the Power Couple Training program, aiming to support individuals and couples in their journey towards stronger, more meaningful relationships. They reflect on their journey and the impact of their work on future generations, offering listeners a blend of practical advice and profound wisdom on improving relationships, embracing vulnerability, and the transformative power of love and connection. Watch this video to learn how to get more money, more sex, and a better connection with God.

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What kills a man’s EDGE and stops him from living his purpose?

What kills a man’s EDGE and stops him from living his purpose?

Having the EDGE is not easy.

But when you have discipline and take consistent, intentional action, you can keep your EDGE sharp.

Watch this episode of the King’s code to learn what you need to do.

Here is a quick preview of what you will learn from this video:

1. Mastery Over Luck: True mastery in any area of life requires consistent effort and facing challenges head-on. Relying on luck is not sustainable; it’s the hard work and dedication to doing the difficult things that most shy away from that truly sets you apart.

2. Pursue Progress, Not Perfection: The journey to keeping your EDGE is not about achieving perfection but committing to constant improvement. Can you challenge yourself to improve by 1% every day in every aspect of your lif
3. Identify and Address Leaks: To sharpen your EDGE, it’s crucial to identify what’s holding you back. Comfort, guilt, shame, comparison, sedation, and playing small are all factors that can lead to losing your EDGE.

4. Anticipate Threats: Understanding potential threats like betrayal, sickness, failure, and ego can help you prepare and strengthen your EDGE against them.

5. Opportunities to Sharpen Your EDGE: Connecting to a deeper cause, contributing to others, refining your vision, and surrounding yourself with dreamers and visionaries are all ways to enhance your EDGE.

This episode is a reminder that maintaining your EDGE is a continuous process that requires vigilance, effort, and the willingness to grow. Click here to watch this episode and gain more insights into how you can keep your EDGE sharp and navigate life with confidence and purpose. Remember, you don’t have to be perfect to be a great father, leader, or man. It’s about striving for progress and being the best version of yourself. Let’s keep pushing forward together.

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How to raise a great son: Be a good father

How to raise a great son: Be a good father

In this episode of the King’s Code podcast, Raul catches up with his son, Alejandro, to discuss his first 6 months or so of college. They cover a very wide range of topics, ranging from upcoming boxing and MMA fights to Raul’s feelings on fatherhood to Alejandro’s work ethic at college to rapper Logic’s hit song 1-800-273-8255.

This episode is both wide and deep, as Raul and Alejandro not only cover this wide of topics, but they get real and raw about their respective experiences as father and son. Raul expresses how happy he is to be a father and how proud he is of Alejandro, and he in turn talks about the positive influence that growing up in a loving family that rewards hard work has prepared him for college. Click here to join them for an insightful and heartfelt discussion.

 

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Is communication the key to relationships?

Is communication the key to relationships?

In this episode, Raul and Vivian Villacis explore the complex world of relationships and the role of communication. They begin first with a celebration of Women’s Day, honoring the profound contributions of women throughout history, and emphasizing the need for men to support their women and how every successful man has a great woman supporting them. They pivot to discussing common narratives about relationships, particularly the claim that successful relationships hinge on communication, offering their nuanced perspectives on this topic, using a recent viral video for reference.

Raul and Vivian challenge the oversimplified notion that communication alone can solve relationship issues, and instead discuss the different kinds of communication that go beyond just words. Specifically, the role of just listening and holding the space. They explore the dynamics of feminine/masculine energy in communication, the importance of understanding each other’s communication styles, and the impact of communication on the health of a relationship. Communication is just one facet of a healthy relationship, which also requires understanding your partner’s love language, setting boundaries, time/energy management, consistency, and balancing different responsibilities.

Be sure to watch this video to take your relationship to the next level.

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