How to overcome a Victim Mentality

In this informative video, host Raul Villacis takes you through a lesson on how to avoid the victim mentality. We are going through a national crisis, and there seems like nothing but bad news on TV and social media. It’s enough to make you want to give up. But there are people out there who are taking ownership of their situation. Look at major figures in politics, and you will see that some of them are blaming others, and others are stepping up and taking ownership. You can see for yourself that the ones who are taking ownership are more respected and admired than the ones who don’t take responsibility.

There is no upside in complaining. You can blame people thousands of miles away who caused or exacerbated this crisis, but is there really any point? Instead, we have no viable option except to look at the small percentage of your life that is under your control, and expand that percentage to as close to 100% as you can. It will take a herculean effort to take responsibility when it’s so tempting to place blame, but that’s the only way to improve your life.

By watching this video, you will learn how to avoid the victim mindset by avoiding these five traps:

1- Comparing yourself to others
The moment you compare yourself to others, you lose. The only person you are competing with is you from yesterday.

2- Doubting your value.
Every time you second guess yourself, you lose certainty. Stop basing your value on what other people think.

3- Trying to please everyone
It’s impossible to please everyone. If you try, you’re only going to end up not pleasing yourself. When you bend for others you will blame them for the choices you made. That’s what happens when you start pleasing everyone else, you blame them when you’re unhappy with the results.

4- Letting your pride rob you from asking for help.
Don’t let your ego stop you from raising your hand and admitting you don’t have all the answers. Humility kills the victim mentality when you own your shit. The moment you think you’re going to do it all by yourself, you’re going to lose.

5 – Don’t be a savior unless you want to be crucified
Being a savior feels good, but eventually, you will become the victim when you don’t get the credit you think you deserve. You have to feed the King first. Instead of giving joy to others and draining yourself, fill yourself with joy until you are overflowing with it.

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