The 4 Pillars Framework of Emotional Intelligence

It’s easy to say you want to make an impact. But you’ll never make an impact unless you create a foundation for lasting results. Without one, any challenge will knock you off your path.

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Here are the 4 Pillars Framework of Emotional Intelligence:

Practice daily. Mastery never comes from doing something once, it takes a lifetime of work. You must do the work on a daily basis, and that will create discipline. Discipline is superior to motivation.
Set the intention. Without the intention, you are attached to the outcome. If you have a clear why you can be flexible when conditions change.
Be open to innovation. Change is inevitable. There is no way to go back to the way things were. But there is opportunity if you’re willing to test and grow. If you stop innovating, you stop growing.
Focus on impact. The bigger the impact, the bigger the challenge. Ask yourself who will suffer if I don’t pay the price? Put a face on the person who will pay the price if you don’t innovate, then you have a reason why. If you focus on yourself, there’s a limited amount of energy you can draw from; if you focus on others, there is an unlimited amount of energy.

Life will not give you more than you’re willing to give life. Focus on how to serve others; If the intention is to serve then you’ve already won. Put the work in every day and you will see results.

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August 20, 2020August 23, 2021

What kind of attention do you want in a relationship?

On this episode, Raul and Vivian focus on two interrelated points. The first comes from a situation the two were recently in where the family went to the beach. Raul volunteered to get a beach umbrella, but by the time he got to the store, he kept on buying more and more things that were less and less useful. Raul explores the pattern and trigger that led him to take that action, and specifically his need for approval.

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The second point comes from a question from a viewer. The viewer feels ignored when her husband sits down and becomes a couch potato. Raul and Vivian discuss how masculine and feminine energy play into different methods of sedating yourself when you want to quiet your mind.

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August 13, 2020August 23, 2021

How to survive the storms in your life and your relationship

In this episode of God, Money & Purpose, Raul and Vivian are in from the storm. During the recent hurricane that swept Connecticut, a tree fell right into their pool. They were fortunate, because the damage was only property, and no one was hurt, even though they were startled by the crash.

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So, for the time being, where they lay their head is home, wherever they have each other and their children is home. The storm, in a literal sense, gives them an opportunity to reflect on the metaphorical storms in our life that we face constantly. The storm is strong, and so we must be stronger than the storm.

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August 4, 2020August 23, 2021

How to Invest in Real Estate After Covid19 with Daniel Barres

On this episode of the Daily Edge Podcast, host Raul Villacis interviews his longtime friend and brother-in-arms Daniel Barres. Barres is the CEO of Asset Quest, a real estate investment acquisition company based in Fort Myers, Florida.

Raul and Daniel discuss how COVID has quickly and permanently changed the face of real estate. For some, it means moving away from densely populated cities, for others, it means finding the amenities that make it possible to work comfortably and safely. As an agile investor, Daniel is on top of these trends. In this episode, you will see what some of those trends are, and see how experienced investors are finding new opportunities. The game has changed, and you don’t want to be left behind.

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July 23, 2020August 23, 2021

Can a MARRIAGE survive a MIDLIFE CRISIS?

You’ve got questions, we’ve got the answers. This is a special episode of God, Money & Purpose, recorded at a Next Level boot camp in front of an intimate audience.

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Personal development has a number of unexpected outcomes. The two partners see each other in pain, then later in stages of growth. What can that do to a relationship? How did Raul and Vivian deal with Raul’s tunnel, and his “ascendance” as a king? What did she do to grow herself, and how did that in turn affect their relationship again? Raul and Vivian answer these questions and give their insights into relationships on this special episode of God, Money & Purpose.

SHOW NOTES:

0:52 Question: If a woman is powerful and alpha, how do you, as a man, gain her respect?
1:11 Vivian’s take: You have to show up
3:04 Raul’s take: You don’t have to make more money to be more “masuline,” you have to have the masculine polarity. Don’t let anyone else judge you for what makes you happy.
5:15 Question: what did Raul do when he was going through a tunnel to get Vivian on board with personal development?
5:27 A woman has to grow to meet her partner
9:16 You can’t help someone else before you help yourself
11:38 Vivian talks about the experience of seeing a new person in the old person
12:44 Raul’s recommendations for increasing intimacy
14:40 Information is not enough
16:51 Question: How do I give my wife more confidence?
16:57 Short answer: You can’t.
20:30 Whatever your purpose is in life, don’t stop. Live your purpose and she’ll grow to meet you
23:14 Three things to do: Praise her, trust her, paint the vision
25:30 Date nights are important in a relationship
28:13 Raul’s closing thoughts
28:35 Outro

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July 21, 2020August 23, 2021

How To Tap Into Flow State

Flow state, sometimes called “In the zone” or “Playing in the pocket,” refers to a heightened brain state where you are at your maximum potential. It’s the real-life “limitless.” In this state, your brain is flooded with a potent cocktail of chemicals that focus your brain completely on the task at hand, feel best, and bring out your best mental and physical performance.

This state is elusive, but the more you are in flow state, the easier it will be to get in it again.

Here are 5 steps you can take to tap into flow more often and more easily.

1- Find the triggers that put you in flow state, and write them down.
Examples of triggers include silence, being in nature, anticipation, excitement, overwhelming stimulation, pressure, performance, competition, exercise, music, extreme activity, danger, fear.
The more important a task is, the more likely you are able to get into flow, but only if you have the skills necessary to do the task, otherwise you will likely collapse under pressure.

2- Make time for the flow state.
You don’t have to be in flow all day, or even for an hour. You can be in flow for a few minutes at a time; this is called “micro-flow.” You can dip into this state of micro-flow easily, but you can also be brought out of it quickly. Value your own time and don’t let anyone interrupt you when you hope to be in flow state.

3- Be curious.
Curiosity is a major trigger of flow state. If you are not continuously pushing the boundaries of what is possible for you to do, you will fall out of that sweet spot of skills and difficulty, because your task will be too easy, and therefore it will become boring.

4- Don’t try to duplicate the experience.
Every single flow state experience is different. Don’t try to replicate the conditions that put you into flow. Don’t chase that high, instead focus on being even better, which keeps you in the sweet spot. Don’t discount your small moments of micro-flow.

5- Don’t let your mind sabotage your experience.
Find the triggers that get you out of flow state,and learn how to avoid them. Mastery comes from awareness. When you are aware of your triggers that put you in flow or pull you out of it, then you can adjust your conditions to maximize the potential that you will be in flow.

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